Deciding to become a surrogate is a momentous and selfless decision. As you embark on this incredible journey, it's essential to have open and honest conversations with both your immediate family and your kids. Sharing your intentions can lead to their understanding, support, and encouragement. In this blog post, we'll provide you with valuable tips on how to approach these conversations, ensuring that both your family and your kids stand by you in your surrogacy journey.
Talking to Your Family:
Choose the Right Time and Place: Select a comfortable and private setting to have this discussion with your partner and immediate family. Ensure everyone is relaxed and free from distractions, allowing for a meaningful conversation.
Be Informed and Educate Them: Before discussing surrogacy, educate yourself about the process, risks, and benefits. Armed with knowledge, address any questions or concerns your family may have confidently.
Express Your Motivation: Share the reasons behind your decision to become a surrogate with your family. Emphasize your desire to help others build their family and the fulfillment you anticipate from this uniqueerience.
Address Their Concerns: Be prepared for a range of emotions and reactions from your family. Listen carefully to their concerns and empathize with their feelings. Address any misconceptions or fears with patience and understanding.
Provide Reassurance: Reassure your family that you have carefully considered all aspects of surrogacy, including medical and psychological evaluations. Let them know that you are confident in your decision.
Talking to Your Kids:
Be Honest and Age-Appropriate: When discussing surrogacy with your kids, be honest and use age-appropriate language. Younger children may not fully understand, so keep the explanation simple and focus on helping another family have a baby.
Use Books and Resources: Utilize age-appropriate books and resources on surrogacy to help your kids understand the process better. Reading together can open up discussions and provide a comforting way to address their questions. Below are a few books that surrogates can share with their family.
The Kangaroo Pouch
Sophia's Broken Crayons
My Mom is a Surrogate
Address Their Feelings: Be prepared for a range of emotions from your children. Listen carefully to their concerns and feelings. Reassure them that your decision to be a surrogate does not change your love and commitment to them.
Set Boundaries and Reassure: Let your kids know that while their opinions matter to you, the final decision to become a surrogate is yours. Reassure them that you have thought about this decision carefully and believe it is the right thing to do.
Talking to both your family and your kids about your decision to become a surrogate is a crucial step in your surrogacy journey. Approach these conversations with honesty, patience, and understanding. Remember that you are making a profound and compassionate choice, and with time and open communication, your family will likely support you throughout this incredible experience. At Smart Surrogacy, we are here to support you every step of the way.